Call Her Daddy
Call Her Daddy
"Confidence is being interested in engage with others now I'm a very shy person at a party I mean when I was younger I would just have to get wasted just to go to a party now because I've learned this trick I can go anywhere which is everyone's a little nervous and insecure we all are so get interested in the other so if I walked into a party I'd walk right up to you and say hey what's your name Alex okay Alex what brought you to this party. Everybody wants to be cared for and understood so if you've got good questions you never have to feel not confident in a room again." — Dr. Jennifer Fried
"Projection is the psychological term for taking negative qualities inside ourselves or positive qualities inside ourselves that are not as awake or aware inside of us and we put them on someone else to go oh there that... We disavow something in ourselves and we throw it on somebody else." — Dr. Jennifer Fried
"The trick to life is like I said being fully expressed you cannot be fully expressed unless you've actually experimented with getting outside of your habits and patterns the book is the key to just living a bigger larger you and when you do that you're much happier but so are people around you because again we are only as attractive as we keep growing nobody's attracted to somebody stuck and still we're attracted to people because they're dynamic and they're offering something." — Dr. Jennifer Fried
The episode features a discussion with Dr. Jennifer Fried, author of "A Map to Your Soul," focusing on self-discovery and navigating life's challenges. Dr. Fried emphasizes the critical role of first impressions, noting that initial assumptions are made within seconds. She advises listeners to shift focus from self-consciousness to genuine interest in others to build confidence in social settings. This approach, she explains, encourages connection by making others feel cared for and understood through thoughtful questioning.
The conversation then explores effective listening skills, identifying common pitfalls such as problem-solving, identifying with one's own experiences, toxic positivity, and distraction. Dr. Fried advocates for deep listening, which involves empathy, active remembering, being present, and asking open-ended follow-up questions. She also touches upon the concept of projection, defining it as attributing one's own unacknowledged qualities onto others, and highlights how this can hinder genuine connection and personal growth by preventing individuals from living their full selves.
Furthermore, the discussion unpacks the eight stages of love, from longing and lust to compassion and vulnerability, emphasizing that relationships evolve through these phases and require work beyond the initial "honeymoon" period. Dr. Fried also introduces the concept of the "subtle sexual field," advocating for consistent, small gestures of attraction and affirmation throughout the day to foster deeper intimacy. The episode concludes with encouragement for listeners to explore their inner selves to live more fully expressed and happier lives, ultimately making them more attractive and enjoyable to be around.