Call Her Daddy
Call Her Daddy
"Fletcher is this like bad bitch energy that I step into when I go on stage. It has this like really like don't fuck with me. Like I am just, it's like an alter ego in a sense. Like Fletcher is very like main character energy and then Carrie is behind the scene like keeping us grounded and being like, are we sure we wanna say that? Let's maybe not go there." — Fletcher
"My music is like very like if you were to open a diary and just kind of read what it was. Like that's just becomes my lyrics. And so there's this very like unhinged chaotic. Just like emotionally telling like quality, I think that exists and like what I talk about and what I'm interested in and relationships and like all the weird shit that like comes with that." — Fletcher
"The thing about closure is that it's not always going to be a satisfying piece of information that you're like, oh, it's finally time to close the door and I feel good about it. You might not feel good about it. You might not ever feel great about it. Like, there's just, it just comes, like, you have to tap into this deeper knowing of like, I'm, this is not good for me anymore. This is not good for this person. Like, let's just walk away from this." — Fletcher
The episode features musician Fletcher on the "Call Her Daddy" podcast, where she delves into her burgeoning music career, the themes behind her emotionally raw lyrics, and the deliberate separation between her personal identity and her stage persona. Fletcher explains that her music is akin to an open diary, exploring relationships and the "unhinged, chaotic" aspects of her inner world. She contrasts her public persona, "Fletcher," which embodies "bad bitch energy" and "main character energy," with her private self, "Carrie," who is more grounded and cautious. This duality allows her to step into a sense of liberation and freedom, encouraging listeners to embrace their own authentic selves and overcome the fear of external perception.
A significant portion of the discussion centers on relationships, attachment styles, and personal growth. Fletcher and host Alex Cooper explore the complexities of fearful avoidant attachment, the tendency towards people-pleasing, and the challenges of vulnerability. They discuss the pain of breakups, the difficulty of moving on, and the importance of healthy communication within relationships. Fletcher shares candid anecdotes about past relationship experiences, including instances of pettiness and the struggle to find closure. Both speakers emphasize that self-awareness and honest self-reflection are vital for navigating romantic connections and fostering genuine self-love.
The conversation also touches upon Fletcher's journey with her identity, particularly her experiences as a queer woman growing up in a conservative environment and her struggles with mental health, including OCD and intrusive thoughts. She recounts the process of unlearning societal and religious conditioning, the importance of finding a "chosen family," and the gradual acceptance and support from her parents. The episode concludes with discussions on maintaining work-life balance, navigating social pressures around alcohol, and the courage it takes to be vulnerable and authentic in both personal life and artistic expression, underscoring the message that embracing one's full, imperfect self is the ultimate form of empowerment.