Call Her Daddy
Call Her Daddy
"I think the answer for me personally is, because it's a part of my life, and it made me who I am, not to get fucking corny, but the thought of throwing away into a trash can, parts of my life that were so instrumental in my development and my sense of self, and making me realize who I want in a partner, what I want in a partner, all of those moments led me to my now boyfriend." — Alex Cooper
"The old call her daddy would be asking the info on the clip size, the info on how good they were fucking and you could get the info and be able to snoop and be petty. That's not what I'm saying. When you're dating, the goal is to learn more about your partner." — Alex Cooper
"I personally like, I don't want to hear about you actually. I don't even want you to be thinking about him. I don't want like if you're so amazing and why did you not stay with him, like if you want to talk about him, then stay with him. But for me, I would rather not know because it's gonna either trigger some sort of insecurity or spark a conversation or a competitiveness that I don't necessarily want to bring out of myself." — Harry Jousey
The episode delves into the concept of an "Xbox," a metaphorical box containing mementos from past relationships. Alex Cooper shares her personal experience of discovering such a box, prompting a discussion on whether it's acceptable for partners to keep items from exes. She contrasts her current secure relationship with past experiences where similar discoveries would have caused significant insecurity. The conversation emphasizes that in a healthy relationship, an "Xbox" can be viewed as a reminder of personal growth and the journey that led to the current partnership, rather than a sign of lingering attachment.
The podcast also explores the dynamics of discussing past relationships with a current partner. Alex argues that open communication about exes, when handled with maturity and a focus on understanding, can be beneficial for building trust and gaining insight into a partner's history and potential triggers. This is contrasted with the potentially unhealthy approach of stalking ex-partners or seeking petty details. The episode touches upon societal perceptions, particularly how men and women often react differently to discussions about past relationships, with men sometimes preferring not to know to avoid insecurity or competitiveness.
A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to a personal anecdote from Alex about a former friend and mentor who betrayed her trust by sharing intimate photos of her acne breakouts with other men. This experience highlights the dangers of gossip, the importance of recognizing toxic behavior, and the power of knowledge gained from difficult situations. Alex reflects on her own past behavior of talking negatively about others and acknowledges that it often stems from insecurity, advocating for a shift towards more constructive and empathetic interactions.