"The only reason the clitoris exists, the only reason, is for a pleasure, but we've never celebrated it, we've never talked about it." — Dr. Emily Moore
"Lube is the most underrated sexual condiment on the planet." — Dr. Emily Moore
"The clitoris is not self-lubricating, and if you let's see you're even a little bit wet at the beginning, that's coming from your vagina, it's coming out of here. Like right, and then it gets up out here, it's not guaranteed that it's going to be enough, that's gonna last long enough." — Dr. Emily Moore
Dr. Emily Moore, a sex educator, joins Alex Cooper to break down the intricacies of female orgasm and sexual pleasure. The discussion tackles the pervasive stigma surrounding masturbation and sex toys, highlighting that only a small percentage of individuals with vulvas achieve orgasm solely through penetration. Dr. Moore emphasizes the importance of understanding vulva anatomy, particularly the clitoris and its extensive nerve endings, and advocates for its direct stimulation for pleasure. The conversation introduces lubricant as a crucial tool, increasing the likelihood of orgasm by 80%, and stresses that natural wetness can fluctuate, making external lubrication essential for comfort and pleasure.
The episode provides practical advice for self-exploration, recommending a mindful approach to masturbation that begins with general touch and gradual exploration rather than immediate clitoral focus. It suggests creating a mood and engaging all senses for a more immersive experience. When introducing sex toys, a simple bullet vibrator is recommended for beginners, with guidance on how to use it externally to tease and stimulate nerve endings. The discussion also touches on the benefits of mutual masturbation for couples, framing it as a way to learn about each other's bodies and preferences, thereby enhancing intimacy and sexual satisfaction.
Furthermore, the episode addresses common concerns, such as faking orgasms, the "orgasm gap," and how to communicate sexual needs to a partner. Dr. Moore offers a communication framework focusing on timing, tone, and turf (outside the bedroom) to foster open and honest conversations. The potential for prostate stimulation in individuals with penises is also explored, highlighting its significance for pleasure and debunking myths surrounding anal play. Ultimately, the overarching message is to destigmatize sexual exploration, empower individuals to prioritize their pleasure, and foster healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives through education and open dialogue.