Call Her Daddy
Call Her Daddy
"What my therapist has now pointed out is that we are actually just overstimulating our nervous system and making ourselves more anxious." — Alex
"The first moment of silence I feel like I get in my days or when my head hits the pillow at night." — Alex
"If you can actually sit with what is making us anxious or stress, then we will feel so much better in the long run." — Alex
The host discusses her personal struggle with sleep difficulties, attributing it to her brain going into overdrive when attempting to rest. This is further exacerbated by an unhealthy reliance on constant stimulation throughout the day, from podcasts and music during daily tasks to social media during downtime. Her therapist identified this as a common stress response and an avoidance tactic. The episode delves into how this "freeze state" of overstimulation, while offering short-term relief, ultimately worsens stress and anxiety, particularly through "rot culture" on Sundays where passive consumption replaces productive rest.
The host shares her therapist's practical advice: incorporating single tasks done in silence. By consciously choosing to complete tasks like cleaning her closet without external distractions, she found it allowed her mind to process thoughts and stress, leading to a sense of calm and improved presence. This shift in approach has significantly improved her sleep and overall clarity, encouraging listeners to be mindful of their own stimulation habits and to embrace moments of quiet.
The discussion extends to practical strategies for listeners, including the idea of a "simple Sunday reset" which involves starting the day with an enjoyable activity, completing one prioritized task in silence, and taking intentional breaks. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, both with oneself and with external digital influences, advocating for intentional device usage and prioritizing real-life interactions over passive consumption. The host concludes by stressing that while the transition may be uncomfortable, consciously reducing overstimulation leads to a more fulfilling and calmer existence.