Call Her Daddy
Call Her Daddy
"Technically, physiologically, an orgasm is an intense contraction and release of muscle tension. And it feels very pleasurable and it incorporates the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system." — Dr. Laura Berman
"The best way to really learn to have an orgasm is to learn to do it on your own first. So you start with manual stimulation or even with a small external vibrator, you start with the lowest hanging fruit, which is the clitoral orgasm." — Dr. Laura Berman
"The key to their sexual satisfaction was the connection they felt with the person they were having the orgasm with or just having sex with. So it wasn't as important to have an orgasm every time." — Dr. Laura Berman
This episode of Call Her Daddy features host Alex Cooper in conversation with sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman to address common questions and misconceptions surrounding female orgasms. Dr. Berman begins by defining an orgasm physiologically as an intense, pleasurable muscle contraction and release, while also noting the pervasive myths surrounding female orgasm, such as the idea it must occur through penetration or simultaneously with a partner. She contrasts male and female orgasms, highlighting women's natural capacity for multiple orgasms and the variety of female orgasmic experiences, including clitoral, vaginal (G-spot), and blended orgasms.
Dr. Berman provides actionable advice for individuals struggling to achieve orgasm, emphasizing the importance of learning one's anatomy through tools like a mirror and prioritizing self-stimulation with manual techniques or vibrators, focusing initially on clitoral stimulation. She stresses that understanding and pleasure are paramount, and that most women do not orgasm through intercourse alone, often requiring concurrent clitoral stimulation. For partnered sex, she advises teaching partners and exploring positions that facilitate both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, such as the "cat" alignment technique. Beyond pleasure, orgasms are discussed for their health benefits, including the release of dopamine and oxytocin, and positive impacts on the immune system, cardiovascular health, mood, sleep, and relief from menstrual cramps and migraines.
The conversation delves into specific topics like ejaculation and squirting, clarifying that female ejaculation is a physiological process that can be controlled and that the intensity of the orgasm may be heightened. Techniques for managing ejaculation and exploring G-spot stimulation are offered, including using Kegel exercises to strengthen pelvic floor muscles for increased control and sensation. Dr. Berman also addresses common challenges such as sensitivity to clitoral stimulation, the mental barrier of "overthinking" an orgasm, and the issue of faking orgasms in relationships, advising on strategies for open communication and introducing new techniques. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of connection and sensuality in sexual satisfaction, emphasizing that orgasm is not the sole measure of good sex and encouraging a mindful, present approach to intimacy.